Good evening guys!
I just got home from a lecture. Well, the word lecture doesn’t quite fit, but it’s the best translation I found in English. The women talking were Anja and Gro Hammerseng Edin. For those of you who don’t watch handball or don’t know what handball is or who they are, they are, now retired, athletes. Both have competed at the highest level possible and they’ve won several medals with our flag on their chest. This is how I know them, mostly. I’ve watched them on TV since I was a little girl and played handball myself. I can’t count how many championships I’ve watched them play, and now I got to know them a little bit off the court as well. It is kind of a tradition in Norway that before Christmas the women play their championship while the men play after New Years. In my head, they have always seemed so in control and best at what they do. On the court, I’ve known them for their positions and ability to play and take Norway all the way in championships. I remember I read about their wedding and thought that this is amazing! It’s good that people don’t follow the norms if the norms aren’t fitting for them. When they announced that they were expecting a baby I remember people wrinkled their nose, but most people were happy for them, myself included. If the norms don’t fit you, change them.
This lecture was a birthday present from my Grandma and she, my cousin and I went together tonight. None of us knew what we had signed up for, I had just seen on their Instagram (@hammersengedin) that they were having a lecture in my community called Anja and Gro – completely without balls and I thought it would be cool to go. I know right? Funny wordplay indeed. These two women are not like everyone else. They are married and they have a son through a donor. I was hoping to hear something about this and I wasn’t disappointed. They talked about how gender rolls fit into our society and how someone had to walk in front in order for something to change. They also spoke quite a bit about their son and how they were learning from him every day and what kind of society they wished him to grow up in. Norway is a fairly equal country but many areas are still dominated by men. This was one of Gro’s reasons for becoming a speaker, in her opinion we need more women who can explain and relate to the other gender. I find it inspiring listening to people who are different from myself. It makes my brain start to churn around because I don’t think that we always really understand the challenges that follow with not fitting into society’s norms. For a straight person, certain things are easier, like getting married, having a baby, and so on. I think we forget this sometimes. Listening to people who have been through this, and on top of it has fairly known names within the Norwegian and international society, is very inspiring. It makes you think and put your own life into perspective whilst also reminding you to be thankful for what you have. Take a look at the video down below, it is definitely a new hit for me. For my English readers, I’m sorry you won’t understand the lyrics, but you’ll understand the chorus and you’ll catch what the song is about that way! The most important message of the song is; If love is greatest then hate and prejudice will always be last!
Anja also talked quite a bit about confidence and how much this affects us in our daily life and how through visualization we can do so many changes to our own mental health. Mental health has become more prominent in our society these days, both in terms of good and bad. There are more people all around struggling with mental health while it has also become more acceptable to talk about it openly. I will take this with me in times to come because I feel like I’m going to need it.